Tuesday, December 2, 2008

Date 3.5 + .5

Okay, so tonight I had my 4th date with Rick. I was at 3.5 before, and tonight's events qualify as a half date, hence the #4. I would like to preface this post by saying I've had a bit to drink, so I apologize for any incoherence or misspellings.

Blogger J came over to accompany to the bar-like establishment across the street from my new place. I invited Rick to join us, which he did. We were a few drinks in before he arrived. Once he got there everything was fine. We were having fun playing pool and darts, not to mention the eating and drinking. The time came when J's boy arrived to drive her home. So, it was just the two of us (I'll skip the part where J breaks my brand new iphone). Everything is fine. We leave. I ask if he is going to drive me home, since I don't want to walk across the street by myself. He drives me home. I get out of the car. That's it. He doesn't walk me to my door, reach to hug me goodnight, anything. Nada. Fast forward 30 minutes, I fix my iphone. I text him, something to the extent of "home you made it home safe." He texts back, immediately: "Yep! That was fun...I want a rematch." Oh, did I mention I beat him at pool?

If there was ever the perfect opportunity to try fot 1st base, that was it. I was somewhat tipsy and could have used an escort up the stairs to my place. But he didn't even offer. So, to my readers, what in the world is going on? I'm getting fairly frustrated by the whole thing. He is a really nice guy and I get along with him really well, but it's getting ridiculous. What do you think?

9 comments:

Anonymous said...

You need to get a bit more aggressive it seems...not jump his bones, but reach over and grab his hand, touch him when you laugh at something he says, kiss him on the cheek when you leave to use the ladies room...c'mon, who is in 7th grade?! If you like him and want him to get a little physical, give him a without-a-doubt signal....

Jaimi said...

1. I did NOT break your Iphone.

2. I liked him. He was very pleasant. But, I don't remember much about him. Like he was there, butdidn't really make a big impression.

3. I kinda agree with Anon up there, but that really isn't you. You are great at flirting, though.

Did I mention I beat you at darts?

4 times?

Anonymous said...

@J - Wait, wait, I flirted?
@ Anon - I totally did that, like put my hand on his back, leaned into him while we were attempting to fix my phone, etc...

Ed said...

Hmmm...yeah, it just doesn't seem like he's getting it. I always walk the girl to the door, and even I would recognize the opportunity presented by a drunk chick at her front door at the end of a date. He seems like he's obviously the really shy type.

I keep thinking of that guy in Fast Times At Ridgemont High that Jennifer Jason Leigh was throwing herself on. Only he was too nervous to do anything about it.

Anyway, I think Anon up there is right...you need to make the first (and quite possibly the second) move with this one. It sounds like you're making a lot of half-moves, but you're not making the first move. Putting your hand on his back and leaning into him when fixing the iphone that Jaimi broke don't count as "first moves."

Jaimi said...

I did not break the Iphone!

It seriously takes her 5 minutes to make a call! She probably just had to back out of the app I was in. And it that probably took her a 1/2 hour to figure it out.

Anonymous said...

Actually it ended up completely freezing, I had to hold down two buttons at once to reset it.

Anonymous said...

Does it seem like he's really nervous or shy? It doesn't sound like it from the way you describe him and the dates you've been on...which makes me think that maybe he just wants to be friends. I feel like any normal guy would have made the first move by now. I sort of disagree with anon, if you have gone out with him 3 times, text/email him every day and invited him to go drinking with your friends that should already be a without-a-doubt signal. But if you really like him and want to throw yourself out there, maybe you should move in for the kiss.

Anonymous said...

Then why would he hold my hand at the movies?

PadresGirl said...

OK, I'm going to give you my tried-and-true (and no longer top secret) formula for getting to at least first base...Invite him over for movie night. You+him+wine+couch=mucho kissing, and maybe a little groping. Fun times. If that doesn't work, throw a Wii remote at him and chase him out the door.